Thursday, May 1, 2014

Doggy Stigma

I read some sweet romance. Historical and contemporary. I like them. They're wholesome and it's fun reading about how the other half fantasy fuck. I was reading The Cowboy's E-Mail Order Bride by Cora Seton -a very enjoyable romance- when I remembered quite a few women don't doggy.

Our hero of this book, Ethan asks our heroine Autumn, "Is this all right?" after he turns her on her tummy in preparation for some loving. I honestly had a 'whoa, is he going to stick it in her butt?' moment.

You know if it was an erotic novel, he'd only be asking in reference to breaching old rosy.

Then I realized, oh yeah, not all women are comfortable with not having face to face sex. It's considered animalistic. Base. Which is a shame, because 'doggy style' really is my favorite position.

This made me wonder about some of the reasons women could be opting out of the awesomeness that is doggy style. I think one of the largest reasons is the imagery the word 'doggy' creates.

No woman wants to feel like a dog -outside of puppy play, that is.

The word really does promote a sense of being used. The word bitch is often associated with dog in reference to a woman. It doesn't scream positive affirmations that's for sure.

which is just sad

We're animals too, it makes sense

In my sadness for these misguided women missing out, I thought of some names that could change the stigma behind doggy style.

Orgasm Style
aka; G-Spot Stroking Position

Reverse Missionary
If there can be a Reverse Cowgirl, there can be a Reverse Missionary

Face Down Ass Up
Of course

HotSpot Hitter
Why wouldn't you want that?

Spooning Style
It's just one step further than cuddling

Lion Style 
Cause, you know, that's fierce 

I believe sex was meant to be had in many positions. Why would it feel so good if we weren't supposed to do it?

I just had sex in three different positions last night. And none of them were face to face to my husband. Although, I know for a fact he was there.

He was a pivotal component to the sex.

We see each other all the time. Why do we need to soul gaze while buffing? And really, do you know how hard it is to get your ass slapped and your hair pulled in the missionary position?

Wait... Not all women like ass slapping and hair pulling either? Well, what the fuck is wrong with people?!? It's like they don't even want to enjoy sex. 


  1. OMG I loved this post! I really do wish it were called something else, because even when I say doggy style- like to my husband- I sort of giggle, because it makes me feel like a 12 year old boy.
    But it is a very enjoyable position, maximum penetration I would say! And yes, hard to get the ass slapped and the hair pulled in missionary. I concur.

    1. LOL, it makes me giggle and cringe. Everytime I hear or say it, in the back of my mind I'm thinking, "there has to be a better name for that". Seems like a name a man or a dockside day-time prostitute came up with.

  2. I know someone who doesn't like doggie style - her husband was complaining about it (totally wrong, I know). I'd love to talk to her about it but we don't have that kind of relationship. All I can think is it's too hard to give up control - maybe especially with sex because it is so base and the hottest parts of it are the dirty parts (for me at least). Doggie style is the best IMO and yes, we were made perfectly for it.

    Also, I almost fell over reading the 'is he going to stick it in her butt?' piece...that was awesome.